You can buy your hair if it won't grow.......

Hey guys today my rant is going to be on beauty. The thing that apparently every celebrity has and everyone craves to have. After all, what gives you more satisfaction than looking in the mirror and feeling you look like a model or a movie star, or the one all girls and guys have their eyes on when you go out.

But what is beauty? It seems now that it has been imprinted into our minds that beauty is physical.There is so much pressure to look good, and we are constantly bombarded by images of what we feel are perfect women or men. This makes us think that we need to work on ourselves to achieve that perfection; clothes, hair, makeup anything we can get our hands on in order for us to have the confidence to step out of the house and feel worthy.

It's sad when a person feels that they cannot leave the house with at least something on their face or some type of label. Because what? People may not like us.It is even sadder when it comes to the point where a person has to undergo surgery in order to feel better about themselves.

Unfortunately humans aren't the most sympathetic of beings and if they were we would not have as much issues over our physical appearance as there is today. So how do we deal with this? How do we live in this thickle world?

Firstly we should realise that beauty comes from inside. Do you remember when you were a child and the way you looked was the last thing on your mind? It shows that you have slowly been brainwashed to think that the way you look is an important factor in your life so that you can get further, have more opportunities and confidence.

But this is not true you're strength within is what will endear people to you. Being beautiful within will bring you an infectious glow. Don't believe me? Have you ever come across someone who you feel is just such a beautiful person on the inside you can't help but like and admire them? Have you ever seen a man dump his physically beautiful girlfriend for someone who appears to be less unattractive?I'll say no more.

The best thing you can do is waste less time thinking and obsessing over your looks and actually live life. Time is ticking by and you will one day see that it has been wasted on the meaningless at the expense of your inner self.

Think of ways of how to be a better person and not hurt others, try building on your character what are the things you like most about your personality? How can you be more strong?

It is hard not to focus on your looks and judge other people as it has been programmed into your minds. One thing that you can do is go without makeup, doing your hair or wearing the nicest clothes for one day . See how people treat you, do it again and again and you will see that it will become easier and you will feel more fulfilled as people love you for who you really are and not the mask you wear. Your life will consequently become more fulfilling.

p.s (Contrived American accent) I know I be talking about fashion in this blog :P, fashion is going to be everywhere but don't let it posess you, fashion is whatever you want it to be, not what's the hottest thing right now, don't ever feel you have to buy something to make you feel more worthy about yourself.:))

I'll leave you with the wise words of TLC

'You can buy your hair if it won't grow,You can fix your nose if he says soYou can buy all the make up That M.A.C. can makeBut if you can't look inside youFind out who am I tooBe in the position to make me feel So damn unpretty'

What do you want me to do? I'm sorry....I'm back

I know I have been gone for a long time but I have not forgotten about my beloved blog I have been itching to write a few things down but time has been too scarce. ( In otherwords I have been distracted and lazy:P). Sorry guys I like to feel that I try and write the truth, something that seems to be rarely spoken these days lol.

I have a couple of things to write that have been festering in my mind, being a deep thinker is both a gift and curse. A gift because you can learn a lot about different situations and a curse because you tend to overanalyse small things which may not be of any significance at all.

Anywho I was just thinking about distractions and how to determine which ones are good and which ones are bad. Is it right to sacrifice your time on someone or something else when it may often or not lead you to where you want to be? How do you know what's the right thing to do? It's so confusing and often you usually find out what was the right thing to do when you realise you chose the wrong option.

It can be hard when you have a clear cut path in front of you and you want to go for the option which has the most passion or excitement. For example do you follow the steady path of being a doctor or drop it all to become a preacher, singer, actress a path which has less certainty.

Sometimes it is not always as extreme as this. As human beings we are able to do several things at the same time however there will often be one thing that will consume your time more than others, life is a balancing act, which everyone has to do, this involves prioritising the people and the things that you want to do in life as well as trying not to hurt yourself in the process.

Unfortunately I do not have the perfect answer, (although I wish I did) but what I do know is that it is necessary to be emotionally healthy, happy. It is brilliant to be focused but you should balance this with doing the things that you enjoy, taking a chance on people and embracing life, It is sad that there may be inevitable pain due to this, but when this happens you need to pick yourself up and focus on the positive things that you DO have going for you in your life no matter how tired you are. Try writing a plan of where you want to be and a list of things you want to do, look at both the positive and negatives and see what will be best for you. Lists can be boring and life is not as predictable as a list but, It really helps you gain focus.

Furthermore you should also note that people have different priorities and what you prioritise first may not be the same for someone else. Using the example of friendship, someone may see friendship as the biggest priority in their life therefore they expect a lot from a person that claims to be their friend, whereas someone else may see education as theirs and would therefore put that above their friends.The friend may consequently get hurt as a result.

However one of the biggest mistakes that people make is believing that the person may not care because somoeone else or something else is prioritised above them, this is not entirely true it just may mean that at this point in their lives they're focus is on their own needs and goals. Part of being in a friendship or being in a relationship is realising the needs of the other person, supporting what the other person wants to do and knowing that sometimes you will not always be first all the time and this is ok.

However this will not be ok if you feel neglected, first of all you should ask yourself if the neglection is coming from you're need of always having to be with someone all the time, or selfishly wanting the person all to yourself, is this reasonable? If you feel the problem is not you then you should communicate to the other person how you feel as they may not realise or be aware. This could change you're circumstance for the good. If not then get to stepping and find someone that prioritises along the same lines as you. it is hard and believe me I know the pain but sometimes it is best to let go, you HAVE TO let go.

Quote on taking a chance

'It seems that it is madder never to abandon one's self than often to be infatuated; better to be wounded, a captive and a slave, than always to walk in armor. Margaret Fuller'