What do you want me to do? I'm sorry....I'm back

I know I have been gone for a long time but I have not forgotten about my beloved blog I have been itching to write a few things down but time has been too scarce. ( In otherwords I have been distracted and lazy:P). Sorry guys I like to feel that I try and write the truth, something that seems to be rarely spoken these days lol.

I have a couple of things to write that have been festering in my mind, being a deep thinker is both a gift and curse. A gift because you can learn a lot about different situations and a curse because you tend to overanalyse small things which may not be of any significance at all.

Anywho I was just thinking about distractions and how to determine which ones are good and which ones are bad. Is it right to sacrifice your time on someone or something else when it may often or not lead you to where you want to be? How do you know what's the right thing to do? It's so confusing and often you usually find out what was the right thing to do when you realise you chose the wrong option.

It can be hard when you have a clear cut path in front of you and you want to go for the option which has the most passion or excitement. For example do you follow the steady path of being a doctor or drop it all to become a preacher, singer, actress a path which has less certainty.

Sometimes it is not always as extreme as this. As human beings we are able to do several things at the same time however there will often be one thing that will consume your time more than others, life is a balancing act, which everyone has to do, this involves prioritising the people and the things that you want to do in life as well as trying not to hurt yourself in the process.

Unfortunately I do not have the perfect answer, (although I wish I did) but what I do know is that it is necessary to be emotionally healthy, happy. It is brilliant to be focused but you should balance this with doing the things that you enjoy, taking a chance on people and embracing life, It is sad that there may be inevitable pain due to this, but when this happens you need to pick yourself up and focus on the positive things that you DO have going for you in your life no matter how tired you are. Try writing a plan of where you want to be and a list of things you want to do, look at both the positive and negatives and see what will be best for you. Lists can be boring and life is not as predictable as a list but, It really helps you gain focus.

Furthermore you should also note that people have different priorities and what you prioritise first may not be the same for someone else. Using the example of friendship, someone may see friendship as the biggest priority in their life therefore they expect a lot from a person that claims to be their friend, whereas someone else may see education as theirs and would therefore put that above their friends.The friend may consequently get hurt as a result.

However one of the biggest mistakes that people make is believing that the person may not care because somoeone else or something else is prioritised above them, this is not entirely true it just may mean that at this point in their lives they're focus is on their own needs and goals. Part of being in a friendship or being in a relationship is realising the needs of the other person, supporting what the other person wants to do and knowing that sometimes you will not always be first all the time and this is ok.

However this will not be ok if you feel neglected, first of all you should ask yourself if the neglection is coming from you're need of always having to be with someone all the time, or selfishly wanting the person all to yourself, is this reasonable? If you feel the problem is not you then you should communicate to the other person how you feel as they may not realise or be aware. This could change you're circumstance for the good. If not then get to stepping and find someone that prioritises along the same lines as you. it is hard and believe me I know the pain but sometimes it is best to let go, you HAVE TO let go.

Quote on taking a chance

'It seems that it is madder never to abandon one's self than often to be infatuated; better to be wounded, a captive and a slave, than always to walk in armor. Margaret Fuller'

Diary of a female hustler

Wow sorry that my posts have been very few and far between. I'm sure evereyone's been enjoying the summer rather than missing my posts :P. What has been up with me ? Your girl has been on her hustle!! I'm now doing an internship for colour telly so I've been working on my own project. Plus the normal 9-5 work in a shoe shop, I have been sooo tired.

I just want to reflect and say that I am so happy I've got this opportunity to do something that I want to do, that will help me in my future career and hopefully in time I should excel.

Summer, apart from the humid days and blazing sunshine that we've been having is also a cross roads and point of reflection for many people. Stress still is in full sight even though we are supposed to be having time to relax. Always remember that we are not built to perfection, being unsure about a decision or choosing a wrong one is normal. If we slip up remember there is always an opportunity to redeem yourself. It's not even a slip up, just a lesson!!

This week I came across the wise words that in everything we should give thanks to God. This struck a chord with me as I realised that everyday should be a celebration of God's work and more importantly we should always trust and have faith in him. But even those who are not religious out there be thankful for life, enjoy the sun, go on holiday, just have fun! We only live once so why not try and be happy.Anyway It looks like I'm creeping slowly towards my dream and I hope many of you out there are too. Remember in the words of Will smith 'summer summer summer time, time to sit back and unwind :)' Rice peas and love xxxxxx

'It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up -- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.'

- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

quote of the day

'Life consists not in holding good cards but in playing those you hold well'. Josh Billings



Basically you need to work with what you got :)

rice, peas and love

The green eyed monster

Why as a race are humans jealous creatures? Jealousy in small doses can just about pass as being healthy as long as you allow this to motivate you to go get what you want out of life. But if you find that everyday you are thinking about someone else's life or you are consumed by jealously, then this is seriously unhealthy. Ok that girl may be prettier, that guy may be stronger or that person may have everything they want in life without lifting a finger; whilst you have worked so hard and have achieved nothing. One thing you need to realise is that you are living your life not theirs. You're travelling along you're own path which is blessed and has been designed and created perfectly for you. People often confuse blessed with meaning that this has to be full of many positive things but it is the hardships and struggles that provide us with invaluable lessons that cannot be taught by anyone else. Life does not have to revolve around what we haven't got, wish we had or resenting other people. Life needs to be about enjoying what we have and thinking about ways we can healthily improve our attitude to achieve what we want.

When running a race looking at the people around us will only make us lose, look straight ahead and ignore those people who boast and brag and ignore other peoples privileges, you are privileged too.Knowing that you are privileged whilst having the least in life is a quality that the most happy and wise people in life have.

Whatever happened to EVE?

With the female rap scene emulating a barbie bitch fight between Lil Kim and Nicki Minage, people are eagerly awaiting the come back of Eve, to see what she has to bring to the table. Eve recently opened up about having a breakdown in 2000 where she hit her lowest point. How did she get through? A lot of praying and soul searching, Amen sister. Eve has been surrounded by a lot of controversy through these past years including reportedly breaking up with her boyfriend in 2006, who was an African heir due to his father practising cannibalism. Eve is recently revealing all in a behind the scenes music documentary which reveals her stripping past and how Mase helped her get out of it.Her new album Lip-lock is reported to come out this year.

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